Moms -- You Hold the Key to Your Daughter's Healthy Body Image

By Concentric Counselor Michelle Taufmann, LCSW

Excerpt from Neighborhood Parents Network (NPN) blog: Moms, You're The Key To Your Daughters' Positive Body Image

How do we equip girls with a positive body image? It’s a never-ending question that doesn’t seem to wane no matter the advances of women in society. Articles in the press in recent years suggest that mothers are the most influential when it comes to girls’ attitudes toward their bodies. While societal messages, stereotypes and peers are influential forces, mothers are their daughters' primary teacher when it comes to beliefs toward body and physical mage. 

How do mothers influence their daughters’ body image a healthy way? Focus your attention on the function and ability of body. When mothers appreciate their own and their daughters’ bodies for what they are capable of— resilience, flexibility, strength, and endurance —they help their daughters develop a positive perspective on their bodies. This one may be obvious, but is worth saying for those who have any doubts: Do not make negative comments or claims about your daughter’s body (e.g., “Wow, you sure got my thick ankles, didn’t you?"). It’s even best to keep favorable comments about your daughter's image to a minimum in effort to prevent over-identification with the body. Another “no-no” is supporting your daughter to diet or “watch her weight” (unless it’s medically necessary). Even if dieting is her idea or because her friends are doing it.  Discourage it and take some time to have a healthy discussion about it.

Want to know more about how to be how you can help your daugther have a positive body image?  The entire blog can be found by clicking here.

A Window Into Helping You Understand Boys And Emotions

By Concentric Counselor Myron Nelson, LPC, LCPC

Excerpt from Neighborhood Parents Network (NPN) blog: Help Your Boy Express All of His Emotions  

The contributing factors and consequences on why boys are viewed as less emotional is an area worth consideration, but for purposes of this post, it is simply for those who see it as an issue and yearn to address it. I want to share some helpful and practical ways for you to improve young boys’ emotional IQ.

The best kind of care is preventative.  A good starting point is helping boys explore emotions by starting with what they know. Look to the people they interact with regularly —in person or in fantasy—as a way to talk about emotions and feelings. Bring up emotions in their space and domain. Books, video games, and movies are all driven by character interactions and are full of openings to begin conversing about feelings, especially if there is a mismatch and incongruency between what someone is saying and what someone is doing.

If boys mention that someone was angry or nervous, you could ask, “How did you know?” Inquire about what cues they observed: Was it their body language?  Facial expression? Words they verbalized?  It can often feel safer to talk about other people’s experiences and emotions instead of ourselves.

To read the full blog, please go to Help Your Boy Express All of His Emotions post.